Forty percent (2 out of 5) of former smokers felt that the support they get is an important aspect of their success. The support you get from the important people in your life (like your family, friends, and peers) can help make a difference. Your family and friends will stand by you in good times and through the bad times. Below are 12 simple tips to help you find the support you need.
Find the People You Trust
Find the people whom you trust best. These are the people who you can talk to about just anything. They can be your close friends, special someone, parents, peers, your brother or your other family members. Surround yourself with these people and spend more quality time with them.
You can tag along some friends while jogging or working out in the gym. Eat lunch or grab a friend when you go shopping.
Keep Only those People Who Can Help You Quit Smoking
If you feel that your friends are pulling you away from your goals, maybe it’s about time to let them go and keep your distance for a while. Don’t be afraid. Letting them go can be very hard at times, but remember, it is for the best. You can spend more time with people who want you to succeed.
Give time and effort to build important relationships. You’ll be more comfortable running to them for support. You can ask your friends out for a coffee and have a short chat even without a special occasion.
Don’t Take It All Upon Yourself, You Can Always Ask for Help
You need to understand, everyone will need a little help from someone sooner or later. Don’t take it all upon yourself. You can always ask the people you trust for a little help. It doesn’t mean you’re too weak to handle things on your own. True friends will stand by you and will be willing to give you a hand.
Don’t Forget to Say “Thank You”
Always acknowledge the acts of kindness that people are extending. Tell your family, friends, and peers that
you appreciate them and their efforts. Say it, send them text messages, or email them, or you can show it through your actions. Saying “thank you” will not take too much of your time. Say it before you forget.
Don’t Stress Yourself
Identify the things that stress you and try to avoid them. Stress will not help you quit smoking. It even encourages you to light up. You may also want to tell your friends and family about your common stressors. By doing so, they can help make things easier and better for you.
How you carry and present yourself to others will have an impact on how people would react to you. Strengthening your friendships and build your social group. Connect with people. Smile often. Greet your neighbors. Simple things can make a big difference.
Don’t Wait – Initiate
Don’t sit on the corner and wait for people to come to you. Reach out to your friends. Ask them and suggest things you can do together. Invite your officemates for lunch or to come over for dinner. Join conversations and don’t be afraid to voice out your opinion.
Listening is among the best ways to build and strengthen your relationship to others. You can start a conversation by asking questions. Let them open up and listen. Resist your desire to interrupt. Give them the chance to tell their story.
Give Your Support
It’s a two-way street. Don’t expect your friends to be there for you if you do not have the time to be there when your friends need you. Help a friend and brighten their day with words of encouragement or with a tap in the shoulder. A small act of kindness can mean a lot to someone.